I have a feeling most of us have faced similar dilemmas. Or if we haven't, we will, one day. When a person breaks down, they're hitting a limit they need to acknowledge before moving forward. If you find that happening for you, Ursula, I'd be happy to listen.

[ There are certain problems with only coming from fantasy trope land and this is part of it all. ]

It's only something to apologise for when you take it upon yourself to decide how much it is someone else can handle, or how they should be feeling. Emotions don't work that way... nor all that logically.

[ Or else one could turn them on and off and not be torn up in the process; one wouldn't need to hurt over things one couldn't change. SORRY FOR THE ATTEMPT AT BONDING, URSULA! Ellana might have issues with this sort of thing. Solas might have helped not at all. ]